Your actions are largely controlled by your emotions, but her decision to be an addict wasn't a concious act... How do we judge someone who doesn't feel emotions, no sadness no joy just actions - she is traumatized, first by happenings in her life and also individuals she had around her while these things went on.
Born Into a home where it was just herself and her parent who weren't readily available to her, she was brilliant and did well enough to relate with people at school, she thought it important to learn things herself there where no Internet so her friends would tell her about happenings at their homes - to individuals who blame this issues on the "innocent" Internet age, she had no adult to communicate with who would help her with the fact that she was growing up and was now relating to people thereby needing clearer understanding of the things she heard or was told.
At age 14 she was, I wouldn't say molested cause it was consensual, and quoting the dictionary (molested - assault or abuse (a person, especially a woman or child) sexually.) therefore leading to several of these other acts. She lacked not only parental guidance but also saw the need to create her own supposed happiness... Now she could pass for a child prostitute but in this case she wasn't duped or coarsed into been a regular on everyone's bed,or car as made available to them.
She's lost her sense of fulfilment, she's all grown up and now mastered the act, not for money because she doesn't get paid, she's not well kept and seeks to fix herself, there are no rehabs for Sex addicts in the country where she resides but she feels like she's wallowing and her life is coming to an end if she doesn't get fixed - how would she get fix, how does she go about this, she feels like she's tried to say away but the best she was able to do was 3 days and she feel Ill.
She needs our advice on what to do, we shouldn't judge her because the truth is, this could or is happening to anyone, there are several kinds of addiction but some are more visible than the others, just like one is addicted to coke, another to drug, another to sleeping pills, to masturbation, sleeping and not working, to wearing dirty close, to not having their baths, alot of people live with amazing addictions and it's sometimes impossible to believe or understand so we find solace in creating a wall away from them thereby keeping them also far away from truly sharing what their challenges are... She values your comments and looks forward to getting her self fix #onlinesupportgroup.
Tuesday, 10 November 2015
Her Sex addiction
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Anonymous - he has experienced this addiction first hand and dint want to share with his name, interestingly these things aren't peculiar to just women.
ReplyDeleteFirst thing is she needs to realize that this is a battle that she cannot win on her own. He says For years I thought one day, I'll build enough determination and will power and I'll just stop but It doesn't happen that way.
Second thing she needs to know is that it all starts in her mind and with her thoughts This is part of the reason I don't watch TV and hardly watch movies But because I have to use the Internet to work I still have access to stuff I shouldn't watch and because my will power isn't strong enough I fall But what I do is, immediately I fall I repentAnd And then I either study my Bible more, read a Christian book or just worship God Also I realised the things that trigger the temptation So when I'm less busy I go to the office where I have people around I try not to get stressed by exercising, I take taekwando classes twice a week which helps me keep fit and take my mind of these things .To be honest, the reason addictions take so long to go is because even though it causes us so much anguish we derive pleasure from it and a part of us doesn't want to let go.So the part of us that wants to let go must be allowed to take the upper hand everyday through our prayers